Regardless if you've dated for a while or you're in a 15--year marriage; he used to have you climbing the walls with mind-blowing sex. You thought his sexual creativeness would last forever. As time passed--something happened. Women ask; why can't he recreate those great romps between the sheets like he used to?
Confessions from women who say... it just doesn't work anymore:
"While making love to my lover--I had to fantasized about the very first time we made love just to get aroused enough to climax." --Tammy, 31
"He used to kiss me on my ear when we were first dating and it would drive me crazy --in a steamy kind of way. Now it just drives me crazy-- in an annoying kind of way." --Jean, 25
"I used to enjoy it when my husband would be creative in bed. Now, he just sticks with the same routine and has lost his creativeness." --Mary, 30
"My husband use to pull my hair and bite me and it would turn me on to the point that I would do anything for him. But now; it just isn't the same." --Sue, 40
The confessions stated here are just a small representation of many women who have negative feelings--either about themselves or their partners--because their man is no longer in tuned-in to their needs and show no interest in learning new techniques to recreate a sexual explosion. This is noted as one of the biggest turn offs for many women.
For instance; why would Jane [name changed] have to fantasize about the same guy she was making love to? What happened or changed since the first few times they where intimate. 0bviously, what use to work is no longer effective. Well, the answer is quite simple... things change!
You see... many women want the same things that men want between the sheets. Therefore, a man should always be thinking of new and inventive ways to sharpen his skills. Here lies the problem and why women are frustrated. Women will make attempts to learn all she can; and for the most part, will try any thing--with in her comfort zone--to insure her man's sexual pleasure. They'll purchase stacks of books, magazines, and even movies to learn a new technique. On the other hand, most men won't do any of the latter and will rely on the experiences of their past relationships or... stay stuck on what used to work in their current relationship or marriage.
What a man brings to the table from their previous sexual experiences may work the first few times; however, it will quickly lose its effectiveness, and won't do it for her anymore. Why? Because every woman is different and the individual needs and preferences of one woman will not match up to another.
As far as changing his technique--yes--he just might honor your request for a different method. For instance, you want it nice and slow and it starts out that way. Oh, but the first sign of a sigh or moan--he quickly looses focus and revert back to his old routine of humping like a jack hammer.
For men to recreate those exciting romps between the sheets, he will have to take time during those cuddling moments to discuss and discover the things that his partner might find sexy, exciting, and new. He should make her feel comfortable enough to tell him what works and doesn't without it sounding like criticism. And remember; sexual communication will always enhance the intimacy of your relationship.
Confessions from women who say... it just doesn't work anymore:
"While making love to my lover--I had to fantasized about the very first time we made love just to get aroused enough to climax." --Tammy, 31
"He used to kiss me on my ear when we were first dating and it would drive me crazy --in a steamy kind of way. Now it just drives me crazy-- in an annoying kind of way." --Jean, 25
"I used to enjoy it when my husband would be creative in bed. Now, he just sticks with the same routine and has lost his creativeness." --Mary, 30
"My husband use to pull my hair and bite me and it would turn me on to the point that I would do anything for him. But now; it just isn't the same." --Sue, 40
The confessions stated here are just a small representation of many women who have negative feelings--either about themselves or their partners--because their man is no longer in tuned-in to their needs and show no interest in learning new techniques to recreate a sexual explosion. This is noted as one of the biggest turn offs for many women.
For instance; why would Jane [name changed] have to fantasize about the same guy she was making love to? What happened or changed since the first few times they where intimate. 0bviously, what use to work is no longer effective. Well, the answer is quite simple... things change!
You see... many women want the same things that men want between the sheets. Therefore, a man should always be thinking of new and inventive ways to sharpen his skills. Here lies the problem and why women are frustrated. Women will make attempts to learn all she can; and for the most part, will try any thing--with in her comfort zone--to insure her man's sexual pleasure. They'll purchase stacks of books, magazines, and even movies to learn a new technique. On the other hand, most men won't do any of the latter and will rely on the experiences of their past relationships or... stay stuck on what used to work in their current relationship or marriage.
What a man brings to the table from their previous sexual experiences may work the first few times; however, it will quickly lose its effectiveness, and won't do it for her anymore. Why? Because every woman is different and the individual needs and preferences of one woman will not match up to another.
As far as changing his technique--yes--he just might honor your request for a different method. For instance, you want it nice and slow and it starts out that way. Oh, but the first sign of a sigh or moan--he quickly looses focus and revert back to his old routine of humping like a jack hammer.
For men to recreate those exciting romps between the sheets, he will have to take time during those cuddling moments to discuss and discover the things that his partner might find sexy, exciting, and new. He should make her feel comfortable enough to tell him what works and doesn't without it sounding like criticism. And remember; sexual communication will always enhance the intimacy of your relationship.
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