I realize that this may be a blow to your ego but it happens; and believe it or not--we men--are the supporting cast behind their Oscar-winning performances.
You see, men have been under the impression that we have all the right answers when it comes to pleasuring a woman. But women may have a different perspective on that. Women--unlike men--often find it pleasurable when they're making love to us--even if they don't climax. However, women no longer want to be subservient women between the sheets, only caring about the needs of their man. She wants to be granted the same opportunity to receive an orgasm as she affords her man. In fact, they want sex for the same reasons as men. She wants an orgasm. But! There's one thing that stands in the way--our ego.
One of the biggest lessons we men have to learn is to simply drop the ego when it comes to satisfying our women. We have to encourage them to show us how to become their sexual expert. Women have more knowledge about their bodies and their personal satisfaction. By allowing them to teach us--free of the ego--what they know about themselves, then and only then we will become their personal sex expert.
Here lies the problem. When our ladies decide to open up and voice her sexual concerns, we become the Mr. Hyde personality of Dr. Jekyll. Because women feel the need to protect a man's ego at their own sexual expense, she'll begin to feel that she may only be available for your pleasures and self-gratification. Acting out a script that feeds your ego, she'll make you feel like you're the greatest lover she ever had just to speed things up between the sheets ending with the dysfunctional behavior of faking it.
Guys, we have got to change the way we evaluate the intricacies that involve women and how they want to be satisfied. We can no longer act like a "know it all." We need to be open to the idea of being taught. Think about it, if women could achieve an orgasm as easily as we could--we would not be having this conversation. In reality, they can't. So..., we need to roll up our sleeves, drop the ego, and find out what their--sexual--expectations are. Yes, expectations! You see, weather you admit to it or not, we--men--all have sexual expectations. Although we don't have the time to address all of them here; there is one common expectation all men have and that is to achieve an orgasm. Why shouldn't our ladies?
I know that this article might not have been what you expected; however, I encourage and challenge all men to look introspectively, taking a self-assessment--a glimpse in the mirror so to speak--and make an honest evaluation, not only of our strengths but of our weaknesses as well. The process of sexual communication is always developing. Continuing to communicate--with your partner--will always enhance the intimacy of your relationship.
You see, men have been under the impression that we have all the right answers when it comes to pleasuring a woman. But women may have a different perspective on that. Women--unlike men--often find it pleasurable when they're making love to us--even if they don't climax. However, women no longer want to be subservient women between the sheets, only caring about the needs of their man. She wants to be granted the same opportunity to receive an orgasm as she affords her man. In fact, they want sex for the same reasons as men. She wants an orgasm. But! There's one thing that stands in the way--our ego.
One of the biggest lessons we men have to learn is to simply drop the ego when it comes to satisfying our women. We have to encourage them to show us how to become their sexual expert. Women have more knowledge about their bodies and their personal satisfaction. By allowing them to teach us--free of the ego--what they know about themselves, then and only then we will become their personal sex expert.
Here lies the problem. When our ladies decide to open up and voice her sexual concerns, we become the Mr. Hyde personality of Dr. Jekyll. Because women feel the need to protect a man's ego at their own sexual expense, she'll begin to feel that she may only be available for your pleasures and self-gratification. Acting out a script that feeds your ego, she'll make you feel like you're the greatest lover she ever had just to speed things up between the sheets ending with the dysfunctional behavior of faking it.
Guys, we have got to change the way we evaluate the intricacies that involve women and how they want to be satisfied. We can no longer act like a "know it all." We need to be open to the idea of being taught. Think about it, if women could achieve an orgasm as easily as we could--we would not be having this conversation. In reality, they can't. So..., we need to roll up our sleeves, drop the ego, and find out what their--sexual--expectations are. Yes, expectations! You see, weather you admit to it or not, we--men--all have sexual expectations. Although we don't have the time to address all of them here; there is one common expectation all men have and that is to achieve an orgasm. Why shouldn't our ladies?
I know that this article might not have been what you expected; however, I encourage and challenge all men to look introspectively, taking a self-assessment--a glimpse in the mirror so to speak--and make an honest evaluation, not only of our strengths but of our weaknesses as well. The process of sexual communication is always developing. Continuing to communicate--with your partner--will always enhance the intimacy of your relationship.
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